Be prepared that your friend might not be calm. They probably didn’t see this coming, so won’t be as prepared for the conversation as you are. Even if they tell you that you don’t need their permission, make sure that they’re really okay with the whole thing and not just saying it. However, what if this person was the love of your friend’s life? If they had a long and serious relationship, your friend probably won’t be happy about you making a move.
If you’re still carrying baggage from your former relationship, you might want to reconsider using an ex as a crutch. If you are not emotionally available to the man, there will be always be something missing and it might not take that long for the relationship to shatter again. Any form of comfort from anyone, even an ex.
When I was about 18, I became very close with someone who I grew to have very strong feelings for. When I was 18, I also met a girl who became my best friend through my first few years of college. I thought both of these relationships would last longer than they did, and I put a lot of trust into both people. It doesn’t matter if it was totally official or a few months of intense fling. If she’s ever cried over him, told friends she had strong feelings for him or gushed about him all the time, he’s “ex” material.
Don’t mind the differences
However, if only you know the gossip, don’t spread it. Pete and the Bridgerton actress quietly started their romance in early 2021. By April of that year, the SNL funnyman teased that he was “with his celebrity crush,” and shortly after, they were photographed together walking arm-in-arm in the U.K. According to In Touch, Pete and Kate’s relationship “moved too quickly,” which is why they split. “They rushed into the relationship and fell head over heels without thinking about the logistics,” an insider told the outlet in April 2019. Inter Milan condemn vile racist abuse aimed at Romelu Lukaku and tell the Belgian striker to ‘stay strong’…
You wouldn’t want the same thing done to you. Unless you value your relationship with a guy more than your friendship, respect that your friend may not be thrilled you want to start dating her ex. The unspoken rules of girl code imply that it’s basically never OK to date your friend’s ex, especially your best friend’s former boyfriend.
As far as general life is concerned, these rules build badass women of this era. It’s a serious part of feminism and women empowerment, i.e., a woman supporting, protecting, and cherishing another woman. In this case, you can’t leave your friend alone to do her thing because she’s happy. She most probably isn’t and it’s your job to put black apart from white. Don’t knowingly hurt her, but you can prioritize your happiness over hers any day… just like her.
So be responsible and prepared when your friend calls you for a special night. Also, as everyone else has said, forget “girl code”. You said yourself she broke this supposed “girl code” before too.
Girl Code
As Certified Relationship Coaches, we often get an inbox on our website asking us for the politically correct answer, what are the rules? Is it ok if you met your friend’s ex a certain number of years after the initial relationship or is it just completely off limits for life? We feel the rules may vary and each situation is different but here is a guideline that may help you determine if it’s safe to proceed. Bro code- the friendship etiquette that is followed among men.
25) When a friend calls you up complaining about how she is drunk and can’t go home you must allow her to stay at your house, without letting your parentals find out. 23) Never insult your friend but never let your friend leave the house looking hideous. Find a better way to tell your friend how they look. 20) In a case where a friend spreads a horrible rumor about a friend, and than apologizes they are to be given the cold-shoulder for at least 3 days. 15) A girl who can substantially claim that she was not aware that a piece of information was a secret at the time she exposed it shall not be subject to punishment.
When Your Friendship Is Over Social Media
By ending the relationship, your friend knew that her and her ex were not on the same page and wouldn’t be compatible in the future. That totally pinalove doesn’t mean you’ll never be compatible with him. If you’re looking for a hookup, your friend’s ex is not the right place to look.